All Adults Here
Emma Straub, 2020
Penguin Publishing
368 pp.
ISBN-13: 9781594634697
Summary
A warm, funny, and keenly perceptive novel about the life cycle of one family—as the kids become parents, grandchildren become teenagers, and a matriarch confronts the legacy of her mistakes.
When Astrid Strick witnesses a school bus accident in the center of town, it jostles loose a repressed memory from her young parenting days decades earlier.
Suddenly, Astrid realizes she was not quite the parent she thought she'd been to her three, now-grown children. But to what consequence?
Astrid's youngest son is drifting and unfocused, making parenting mistakes of his own. Her daughter is pregnant yet struggling to give up her own adolescence. And her eldest seems to measure his adult life according to standards no one else shares.
But who gets to decide, so many years later, which long-ago lapses were the ones that mattered? Who decides which apologies really count?
It might be that only Astrid's thirteen-year-old granddaughter and her new friend really understand the courage it takes to tell the truth to the people you love the most.
In All Adults Here, Emma Straub's unique alchemy of wisdom, humor, and insight come together in a deeply satisfying story about adult siblings, aging parents, high school boyfriends, middle school mean girls, the lifelong effects of birth order, and all the other things that follow us into adulthood, whether we like them to or not. (From the publisher.)
Author Bio
• Birth—ca. 1979-80
• Raised—New York City, New York, USA
• Education—B.A., Oberlin College
• Currently—lives in Brooklyn, New York City
Emma Straub is an American author three novels and a short story collection. Raised on Manhattan's Upper West side, she now lives with her husband and two young sons in Brooklyn.
Emma comes by writing naturally: her father is Peter Straub, an award winning writer of horror fiction, a fact which makes even Emma admit to a belief in a writing gene. Here's what she told Michele Filgate of Book Slut:
I believe the writing gene is located just behind the gene for enjoying red wine and just in front of the gene for watching soap operas, both of which I also inherited from my father. What I do know for sure is that I watched my father write for a living my entire childhood, and I understood that it was a job like any other, that one had to do all day, every day. I think a lot of people have the fantasy that a writer sits around in coffee shops all day, waiting for the muse to appear.
So while genes may play a role, so does hard work and grit: determined to become a writer, she pushed on even after her first four books were turned down. As she told Alexandra Alter of the New York Times,
They all got rejected by every single person in publishing, in the world. It’s still true that I will go to a publishing party or event, and the first thing I will think of is, "I know who you are, you rejected novels 2 and 4."
It's nice to think that today Straub is having the last laugh.
Attending Oberlin College, Straub received her B.A. in 2002. She went on to earn her M.F.A. at the University of Wisconsin where she studied with author Lorrie Moore. Returning to New York, she worked for a number of years at the independent Book Court bookstore in Brooklyn.
Her novels include Modern Lovers (2016), The Vacationers (2014), and Laura Lamont’s Life in Pictures (2012). Her story collection is titled Other People We Married (2011). Straub's fiction and nonfiction have been published in Vogue, New York Magazine, Tin House, New York Times, Good Housekeeping, and Paris Review Daily. She is also a contributing writer to Rookie. (LitLovers.)
Book Reviews
There’s refuge to be found in stories of everyday people going about their lives.… Emma Straub has become adept at finding amusement in the mundane, and her newest, All Adults Here, might just be her best yet.
Oprah Magazine
The queen of the summer novel…. [W]e have turned to [Emma Straub] to bring us highly enjoyable, yet still thought-provoking, tales about witty protagonists in the throes of life changes.
Entertainment Weekly
All Adults Here is a master class on the small-scale American drama…. [T]his warm, optimistic novel argues that one should keep trying, regardless. All Adults Here affirms the value of community and family, no matter the strife that may rise up within them.
Vogue
In her witty new novel, All Adults Here, Emma Straub examine adolescence, aging, gender, and sexuality through the nuanced experiences of three generations of a New York family.
Harper’s Bazaar
[At] its core about family in all its loving, messy glory…. It’s a page-turner that will make you think about what binds families together and drives them apart.
Good Morning America
This book has it all: conflicted characters, teenagers learning who they are, a single mom having a steamy affair, and goats. Yep, goats.
Good Housekeeping
The perfect book to read during quarantine if your family is driving you crazy…. [A] layered love story that examines, and ultimately celebrates, the modern, multigenerational family dynamic.
Parade
(Starred review) As per usual, Straub’s writing is heartfelt and earnest, without tipping over the edge. There are a lot of issues at play here (abortion, bullying,…) that Straub easily juggles, and her strong and flawed characters carry the day. This affecting family saga packs plenty of punch.
Publishers Weekly
The title is ironic in that 13-year-old Cecelia often seems to be more adult than her parents or her aunt and uncle.… In this engaging novel, Straub explores the ups and downs of a somewhat disaffected 21st-century family with warmth, sympathy, and humor. —Leslie Patterson, Rehoboth, MA
Library Journal
(Starred review) [C]omforting, often funny truths readers love [Straub] for. Like us, her characters are always getting older but never feeling quite old enough to do the right thing, to be the people they want to be…. [T]his might be her best yet.
Booklist
As always, Straub… draws her characters warmly, making them appealing in their self-centeredness and generosity, their insecurity and hope… Straub has a sharp eye for her characters' foibles…. With humor and insight, Straub creates a family worth rooting for.
Kirkus Reviews
Discussion Questions
1. Discuss the examples you see in this particular multi-generational family, or in your own life, of the ways that children can repeat or mutate the strengths and the mistakes that their parents handed down to them.
2. Astrid thinks about the role that birth order has played in the personalities of her three children, and how their own individual childhood experiences have helped to shape the adults they have become. To what degree do you think she is correct in her conclusions about the forces that shaped her children? In what ways are the choices they have made as adults reflective of their younger selves? How much do you think birth order plays a role?
3. Why does Astrid choose to tell her children about her relationship with Birdie when she does? What results from that conversation? Why does she keep this relationship from her kids for as long as she does? Do you think Birdie becomes part of the Strick family over the course of the novel?
4. Compare and contrast Nicky and Juliette’s marriage with Elliot and Wendy’s. How are these two couples portrayed?
5. In what ways does Rachel provide Porter with certain aspects of partnership? How does Porter value her relationship with Rachel and how do her feeling change over the course of the book?
6. What do Cecelia and August understand about forgiveness that the older characters do not? How do they provide the adults with a model for how to be true to yourself and what you believe?
(Questions issued by the publishers.)